Breast Cancer Meets The Lesbian Lifestyle

Breast cancer was not invited in to our home, but it made itself comfortable quickly. Having surgery may have removed the tumor, along with both of her breasts, but it did not evict the unwelcome tenant. Every day we feel it. Some days more than others. Work, kids, and daily routines may offer a momentary … Read more

Fear, anger, and loss walk in to a bar

Does anyone reading this enjoy the unexpected? Or not having control? How about fear? The prevalent theme in our home for the past six months has provided an ample amount of all three. As much as I believe in espousing the virtues of fearlessness, kindness, and strength when faced with adversity, there are times when … Read more

Heart Shaped Glitter

Going out on a limb. Is anyone else noticing the love/hate vibe surrounding the only official holiday celebrating love and relationships? Depending on your relationship status or overall mood, Valentine’s Day can represent all that is good, or all that sucks in life. Cue the hearts, flowers, and chocolate. If you believe the hype, lovers … Read more

The Ugly Present

In the days after being released from the hospital, Yvette asked me many times if I was planning to write a blog. At first, I chalked her constant questioning up to the good drugs, she was not very lucid. At some point I realized she was serious. My response was the same each time. No. … Read more

Hate Throw Down

As much as I dislike discussing politics, I dislike what is happening in our country even more. My journey is unique but many share in wondering how everything went haywire with regard to how we relate and interact with each other in daily life. What I see happening in my little part of the world … Read more

Coming Out Ahead

Twenty-five years ago, Robert Fulghum published a book that became the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller called All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. I read one of the seven million copies that were sold and thought it was wonderful. Most of us know about the lessons taught in Kindergarten but how many know … Read more

Own Your No

Here is a question. How many of you have heard the phrase “setting boundaries” before? I have a sneaking suspicion few have not. I have heard it mentioned on numerous occasions throughout my lifetime, usually while sitting in the therapist’s office or watching Dr. Phil on OWN. What exactly does this mean? Or more importantly, … Read more

Love Your Body

It is natural to feel afraid when a relationship ends. When a marriage ends, everything changes. Entering the dating world is not something most look forward to. The process of learning about a new person and opening up is scary enough on its own. New beginnings bring their own special version of fear to the … Read more

No More Hiding

This week I decided to shelve my own words in favor of one of the most moving messages I have read in quite some time. Robin Maynard, the author, is one of the good ones. Simply put, she is as genuine, kind, and giving as you can get. She and her soon to be wife, … Read more

Who’s the Man?

Now that I have your attention, the answer is no one. That is the point of being a lesbian and a good intro for a discussion about how we see ourselves. Do you remember the moment when you first concerned yourself with what other people thought about you? Or became aware of judgments about who … Read more