Breast Cancer Meets The Lesbian Lifestyle

Breast cancer was not invited in to our home, but it made itself comfortable quickly. Having surgery may have removed the tumor, along with both of her breasts, but it did not evict the unwelcome tenant. Every day we feel it. Some days more than others. Work, kids, and daily routines may offer a momentary … Read more

Fear, anger, and loss walk in to a bar

Does anyone reading this enjoy the unexpected? Or not having control? How about fear? The prevalent theme in our home for the past six months has provided an ample amount of all three. As much as I believe in espousing the virtues of fearlessness, kindness, and strength when faced with adversity, there are times when … Read more

The Ugly Present

In the days after being released from the hospital, Yvette asked me many times if I was planning to write a blog. At first, I chalked her constant questioning up to the good drugs, she was not very lucid. At some point I realized she was serious. My response was the same each time. No. … Read more

Isn’t It Ironic?

Who doesn’t love a good Alanis Morissette reference? Isn’t it ironic that many of my most recent posts have centered on dealing with the unexpected and messes? This has been the prevailing theme for the past five years. Coming out brought changes galore as well as gratitude for the healing and growth that accompanied each … Read more