For the Sake of the Children

Giving birth to a child is a miraculous and life changing event which sets in motion a series of emotional, physical, and mental transformations for parents and children alike. Navigating through and surviving motherhood is an epic journey filled with moments of victory and defeat. This weekend we will watch our third son graduate from … Read more

Moving Through Shame

What is shame? Where does it come from? How can it be overcome? Is it possible to live authentically if shame is in the picture? For most, answering these loaded questions is not easy or fun. Understanding the nature of shame and how it presents itself in daily life is a complicated process. Feelings of … Read more

Worst Year Ever?

What did last year bring? Does 2017 feel like a sight for sore eyes? The arrival of the New Year is always exciting and generally welcomed by most. My wife and I attended a 2016 Can Kiss My Ass party at our home away from home, The Venue, in Orlando. The truth is it could … Read more

Our Own Thing

What does “Christmas” mean to you? If you are a Christian, it is the religious celebration marking when Jesus came in the world. For the devout, it is a time filled with anticipation, ritual, and preparing for the light of the world to arrive. Once again, the holiday season has descended. Yes, I said holiday … Read more

Isn’t It Ironic?

Who doesn’t love a good Alanis Morissette reference? Isn’t it ironic that many of my most recent posts have centered on dealing with the unexpected and messes? This has been the prevailing theme for the past five years. Coming out brought changes galore as well as gratitude for the healing and growth that accompanied each … Read more

Grab Your Cape

The process of planning my “Be Fearless Weekend” is in full swing. I am lining up speakers, creating the material to present, and getting all of my ducks in a row. Although it is four months away, I know the time will sail by and be here before I know it. The moment when I … Read more

My Previous Life

Soon I will be celebrating the 16 year anniversary of my 29th birthday. Actually, tomorrow. I know my day will include a phone call from my dad recounting his fond memories of the day I was born. This ritual is one I look forward to all year. I also know that no surprises are waiting … Read more

Out is Through

Who likes being uncomfortable? Anyone? Didn’t think so. We all have different thresholds, triggers, and definitions of the word uncomfortable. Companies make millions coming up with ways to help make us more comfortable. Eradicating all physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual woes is an impossible task but shifting how we view discomfort may be able to … Read more

Coming Out Ahead

Twenty-five years ago, Robert Fulghum published a book that became the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller called All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. I read one of the seven million copies that were sold and thought it was wonderful. Most of us know about the lessons taught in Kindergarten but how many know … Read more

Face the Strange

Do you ever wake up and have random song lyrics pop in to your mind? And stay there? There is a name for that. Stuck song syndrome, also know as an earworm. For the past three weeks it has been impossible to interrupt the loop that keeps playing a single lyric from a David Bowie … Read more