My Previous Life

Soon I will be celebrating the 16 year anniversary of my 29th birthday. Actually, tomorrow. I know my day will include a phone call from my dad recounting his fond memories of the day I was born. This ritual is one I look forward to all year. I also know that no surprises are waiting … Read more

Out is Through

Who likes being uncomfortable? Anyone? Didn’t think so. We all have different thresholds, triggers, and definitions of the word uncomfortable. Companies make millions coming up with ways to help make us more comfortable. Eradicating all physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual woes is an impossible task but shifting how we view discomfort may be able to … Read more

Coming Out Ahead

Twenty-five years ago, Robert Fulghum published a book that became the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller called All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. I read one of the seven million copies that were sold and thought it was wonderful. Most of us know about the lessons taught in Kindergarten but how many know … Read more

Face the Strange

Do you ever wake up and have random song lyrics pop in to your mind? And stay there? There is a name for that. Stuck song syndrome, also know as an earworm. For the past three weeks it has been impossible to interrupt the loop that keeps playing a single lyric from a David Bowie … Read more

My Friend Anxiety

Do you remember the last time you were free from all worry or anxiety? I do. It was December 2010 when I realized I was a lesbian. As unbelievable as it sounds, the least anxious I have ever been was right after coming out. When I say the least anxious, I really mean none. Zero. … Read more

Love Your Body

It is natural to feel afraid when a relationship ends. When a marriage ends, everything changes. Entering the dating world is not something most look forward to. The process of learning about a new person and opening up is scary enough on its own. New beginnings bring their own special version of fear to the … Read more

No More Hiding

This week I decided to shelve my own words in favor of one of the most moving messages I have read in quite some time. Robin Maynard, the author, is one of the good ones. Simply put, she is as genuine, kind, and giving as you can get. She and her soon to be wife, … Read more

We Are Orlando

The longest week in recent memory just ended for many who call Orlando home, especially for those in the LGBTQ and Latino community. Uncertainty, fear, and grief are only one side of the story emerging in Orlando. The flip side includes overwhelming feelings of love, compassion, and unity. Time and again, when unnecessary and uninvited … Read more

Who’s the Man?

Now that I have your attention, the answer is no one. That is the point of being a lesbian and a good intro for a discussion about how we see ourselves. Do you remember the moment when you first concerned yourself with what other people thought about you? Or became aware of judgments about who … Read more

What’s Your Rep?

Our oldest son graduated from high school yesterday and among the speakers at the graduation was a member of the school board. Mixed in with the usual dream big and work hard messages was wisdom about the importance of protecting their reputations as they moved out in to the world. This sentiment was met with … Read more