Moving Through Shame

What is shame? Where does it come from? How can it be overcome? Is it possible to live authentically if shame is in the picture? For most, answering these loaded questions is not easy or fun. Understanding the nature of shame and how it presents itself in daily life is a complicated process. Feelings of … Read more

Heart Shaped Glitter

Going out on a limb. Is anyone else noticing the love/hate vibe surrounding the only official holiday celebrating love and relationships? Depending on your relationship status or overall mood, Valentine’s Day can represent all that is good, or all that sucks in life. Cue the hearts, flowers, and chocolate. If you believe the hype, lovers … Read more

Two Woman March

So. Much. Chatter. It is not just me right? Do you feel it? Tuning out the noise and staying focused on anything has been a challenge. Look around. The world. Everyday life. The sound of silence is a rare find yet is exactly what is needed more than anything else. Regular readers of my blog … Read more

Our Own Thing

What does “Christmas” mean to you? If you are a Christian, it is the religious celebration marking when Jesus came in the world. For the devout, it is a time filled with anticipation, ritual, and preparing for the light of the world to arrive. Once again, the holiday season has descended. Yes, I said holiday … Read more

The Ugly Present

In the days after being released from the hospital, Yvette asked me many times if I was planning to write a blog. At first, I chalked her constant questioning up to the good drugs, she was not very lucid. At some point I realized she was serious. My response was the same each time. No. … Read more

Gay Ja Vu All Over Again

Wow! What a difference a year makes. Exactly one year ago last week my memoir Switching Teams was released. Without sounding like a jerk, it was one of the finest moments for me and my family. It marked the beginning of a journey which has been everything, and nothing, like I imagined. The excitement surrounding … Read more

What a Mess

According to Webster’s mess is defined as a dirty or untidy state of things or of a place or a situation or state of affairs that is confused or full of difficulties. Any who had the misfortune of finding themselves in the path of Hurricane Matthew have a new appreciation and understanding for the word. In … Read more

Kicking the Cat

The rising hum of anger and discontent is hard to ignore lately. The upcoming election is getting to all of us in one way or another. My political views are not something I make a habit of sharing publicly and today is no exception. However, I will offer some insight about the possibility that fear … Read more

My Previous Life

Soon I will be celebrating the 16 year anniversary of my 29th birthday. Actually, tomorrow. I know my day will include a phone call from my dad recounting his fond memories of the day I was born. This ritual is one I look forward to all year. I also know that no surprises are waiting … Read more

Out is Through

Who likes being uncomfortable? Anyone? Didn’t think so. We all have different thresholds, triggers, and definitions of the word uncomfortable. Companies make millions coming up with ways to help make us more comfortable. Eradicating all physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual woes is an impossible task but shifting how we view discomfort may be able to … Read more