Moving Through Shame

What is shame? Where does it come from? How can it be overcome? Is it possible to live authentically if shame is in the picture? For most, answering these loaded questions is not easy or fun. Understanding the nature of shame and how it presents itself in daily life is a complicated process. Feelings of … Read more

Heart Shaped Glitter

Going out on a limb. Is anyone else noticing the love/hate vibe surrounding the only official holiday celebrating love and relationships? Depending on your relationship status or overall mood, Valentine’s Day can represent all that is good, or all that sucks in life. Cue the hearts, flowers, and chocolate. If you believe the hype, lovers … Read more

Our Mother Lode

Our family is in the weeds. I am talking the over the head, dense, thorny, and blocking out the daylight kind of weeds. I learned this phrase when I was a child and overheard my chef uncle talk about what happens when the orders pile up more quickly than they can be filled and sent … Read more

Isn’t It Ironic?

Who doesn’t love a good Alanis Morissette reference? Isn’t it ironic that many of my most recent posts have centered on dealing with the unexpected and messes? This has been the prevailing theme for the past five years. Coming out brought changes galore as well as gratitude for the healing and growth that accompanied each … Read more

Who’s the Man?

Now that I have your attention, the answer is no one. That is the point of being a lesbian and a good intro for a discussion about how we see ourselves. Do you remember the moment when you first concerned yourself with what other people thought about you? Or became aware of judgments about who … Read more

What’s Your Rep?

Our oldest son graduated from high school yesterday and among the speakers at the graduation was a member of the school board. Mixed in with the usual dream big and work hard messages was wisdom about the importance of protecting their reputations as they moved out in to the world. This sentiment was met with … Read more