The Ugly Present

In the days after being released from the hospital, Yvette asked me many times if I was planning to write a blog. At first, I chalked her constant questioning up to the good drugs, she was not very lucid. At some point I realized she was serious. My response was the same each time. No. … Read more

Our Mother Lode

Our family is in the weeds. I am talking the over the head, dense, thorny, and blocking out the daylight kind of weeds. I learned this phrase when I was a child and overheard my chef uncle talk about what happens when the orders pile up more quickly than they can be filled and sent … Read more

Isn’t It Ironic?

Who doesn’t love a good Alanis Morissette reference? Isn’t it ironic that many of my most recent posts have centered on dealing with the unexpected and messes? This has been the prevailing theme for the past five years. Coming out brought changes galore as well as gratitude for the healing and growth that accompanied each … Read more

My Previous Life

Soon I will be celebrating the 16 year anniversary of my 29th birthday. Actually, tomorrow. I know my day will include a phone call from my dad recounting his fond memories of the day I was born. This ritual is one I look forward to all year. I also know that no surprises are waiting … Read more

Coming Out Ahead

Twenty-five years ago, Robert Fulghum published a book that became the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller called All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. I read one of the seven million copies that were sold and thought it was wonderful. Most of us know about the lessons taught in Kindergarten but how many know … Read more

Face the Strange

Do you ever wake up and have random song lyrics pop in to your mind? And stay there? There is a name for that. Stuck song syndrome, also know as an earworm. For the past three weeks it has been impossible to interrupt the loop that keeps playing a single lyric from a David Bowie … Read more

Coming Out Again

I have a confession to make. Since Switching Teams was published, part of my daily routine includes reading the messages and emails from readers. Many thank me for writing and sharing my story about coming out later in life and many more ask me for advice or share their own stories with me. I am … Read more

“The Gay Thing”

“How can you truly be homosexual if you have been in a heterosexual marriage your whole life?” is the number one question those who come out later in life are asked. The answer to this is simple and may surprise some reading. For any who have wondered the same, grab a snack and continue reading. … Read more

Walk a Mile

Let’s talk about blame, assumptions, and jumping to conclusions. One of the many reasons I wrote Switching Teams was to clarify how challenging the whole experience was. It was just as much a means of clearing up assumptions many had about our situation as it was a way for me to process the experience. The … Read more