Fear, anger, and loss walk in to a bar

Does anyone reading this enjoy the unexpected? Or not having control? How about fear? The prevalent theme in our home for the past six months has provided an ample amount of all three. As much as I believe in espousing the virtues of fearlessness, kindness, and strength when faced with adversity, there are times when … Read more

Moving Through Shame

What is shame? Where does it come from? How can it be overcome? Is it possible to live authentically if shame is in the picture? For most, answering these loaded questions is not easy or fun. Understanding the nature of shame and how it presents itself in daily life is a complicated process. Feelings of … Read more

Heart Shaped Glitter

Going out on a limb. Is anyone else noticing the love/hate vibe surrounding the only official holiday celebrating love and relationships? Depending on your relationship status or overall mood, Valentine‚Äôs Day can represent all that is good, or all that sucks in life. Cue the hearts, flowers, and chocolate. If you believe the hype, lovers … Read more

Face the Strange

Do you ever wake up and have random song lyrics pop in to your mind? And stay there? There is a name for that. Stuck song syndrome, also know as an earworm. For the past three weeks it has been impossible to interrupt the loop that keeps playing a single lyric from a David Bowie … Read more

My Friend Anxiety

Do you remember the last time you were free from all worry or anxiety? I do. It was December 2010 when I realized I was a lesbian. As unbelievable as it sounds, the least anxious I have ever been was right after coming out. When I say the least anxious, I really mean none. Zero. … Read more

No More Hiding

This week I decided to shelve my own words in favor of one of the most moving messages I have read in quite some time. Robin Maynard, the author, is one of the good ones. Simply put, she is as genuine, kind, and giving as you can get. She and her soon to be wife, … Read more

We Are Orlando

The longest week in recent memory just ended for many who call Orlando home, especially for those in the LGBTQ and Latino community. Uncertainty, fear, and grief are only one side of the story emerging in Orlando. The flip side includes overwhelming feelings of love, compassion, and unity. Time and again, when unnecessary and uninvited … Read more

Sex Versus Gender

In the spirit of expanding awareness, this week I felt compelled to change things up a little. For the past few weeks I have asked readers to offer suggestions for topics. What follows was not written by me, but by a trusted and wise therapist friend. After much deliberation, and a cross country visit, I … Read more

Life Goes On

The first day of spring has come and gone. My family spent the majority of the weekend tending to the yard. Refreshing the landscape with new flowers and building a covered garden bed for our vegetables required all hands on deck. Our boys were eager to help and we noticed the absence of complaining which … Read more

I Wanna Stand

Language is a funny thing, especially from small kids. One of my favorite kid butchered sentences in my house was “I wanna stand.” We were not talking about walking or standing up. This response came when they were asked if they understood something I just said. I think of this sentence often, especially since I … Read more