Fear, anger, and loss walk in to a bar

Does anyone reading this enjoy the unexpected? Or not having control? How about fear? The prevalent theme in our home for the past six months has provided an ample amount of all three. As much as I believe in espousing the virtues of fearlessness, kindness, and strength when faced with adversity, there are times when … Read more

Gay Ja Vu All Over Again

Wow! What a difference a year makes. Exactly one year ago last week my memoir Switching Teams was released. Without sounding like a jerk, it was one of the finest moments for me and my family. It marked the beginning of a journey which has been everything, and nothing, like I imagined. The excitement surrounding … Read more

Our Mother Lode

Our family is in the weeds. I am talking the over the head, dense, thorny, and blocking out the daylight kind of weeds. I learned this phrase when I was a child and overheard my chef uncle talk about what happens when the orders pile up more quickly than they can be filled and sent … Read more

Isn’t It Ironic?

Who doesn’t love a good Alanis Morissette reference? Isn’t it ironic that many of my most recent posts have centered on dealing with the unexpected and messes? This has been the prevailing theme for the past five years. Coming out brought changes galore as well as gratitude for the healing and growth that accompanied each … Read more

Grab Your Cape

The process of planning my “Be Fearless Weekend” is in full swing. I am lining up speakers, creating the material to present, and getting all of my ducks in a row. Although it is four months away, I know the time will sail by and be here before I know it. The moment when I … Read more

Coming Out Ahead

Twenty-five years ago, Robert Fulghum published a book that became the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller called All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. I read one of the seven million copies that were sold and thought it was wonderful. Most of us know about the lessons taught in Kindergarten but how many know … Read more

Who’s the Man?

Now that I have your attention, the answer is no one. That is the point of being a lesbian and a good intro for a discussion about how we see ourselves. Do you remember the moment when you first concerned yourself with what other people thought about you? Or became aware of judgments about who … Read more