Moving Through Shame

What is shame? Where does it come from? How can it be overcome? Is it possible to live authentically if shame is in the picture? For most, answering these loaded questions is not easy or fun. Understanding the nature of shame and how it presents itself in daily life is a complicated process. Feelings of … Read more

Heart Shaped Glitter

Going out on a limb. Is anyone else noticing the love/hate vibe surrounding the only official holiday celebrating love and relationships? Depending on your relationship status or overall mood, Valentine’s Day can represent all that is good, or all that sucks in life. Cue the hearts, flowers, and chocolate. If you believe the hype, lovers … Read more

Cursing Like Sailors

Is blogger’s block a thing? If it is, then I have been suffering from it for a couple of weeks. So much is happening, at lightning speed, my mind is struggling to sort out facts and deal with the emotions. I suspect many are experiencing a similar phenomenon lately and hope I am not alone … Read more

The Ugly Present

In the days after being released from the hospital, Yvette asked me many times if I was planning to write a blog. At first, I chalked her constant questioning up to the good drugs, she was not very lucid. At some point I realized she was serious. My response was the same each time. No. … Read more

Gay Ja Vu All Over Again

Wow! What a difference a year makes. Exactly one year ago last week my memoir Switching Teams was released. Without sounding like a jerk, it was one of the finest moments for me and my family. It marked the beginning of a journey which has been everything, and nothing, like I imagined. The excitement surrounding … Read more

Kicking the Cat

The rising hum of anger and discontent is hard to ignore lately. The upcoming election is getting to all of us in one way or another. My political views are not something I make a habit of sharing publicly and today is no exception. However, I will offer some insight about the possibility that fear … Read more

Grab Your Cape

The process of planning my “Be Fearless Weekend” is in full swing. I am lining up speakers, creating the material to present, and getting all of my ducks in a row. Although it is four months away, I know the time will sail by and be here before I know it. The moment when I … Read more

My Previous Life

Soon I will be celebrating the 16 year anniversary of my 29th birthday. Actually, tomorrow. I know my day will include a phone call from my dad recounting his fond memories of the day I was born. This ritual is one I look forward to all year. I also know that no surprises are waiting … Read more

Coming Out Ahead

Twenty-five years ago, Robert Fulghum published a book that became the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller called All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. I read one of the seven million copies that were sold and thought it was wonderful. Most of us know about the lessons taught in Kindergarten but how many know … Read more