Fear, anger, and loss walk in to a bar

Does anyone reading this enjoy the unexpected? Or not having control? How about fear? The prevalent theme in our home for the past six months has provided an ample amount of all three. As much as I believe in espousing the virtues of fearlessness, kindness, and strength when faced with adversity, there are times when … Read more

Heart Shaped Glitter

Going out on a limb. Is anyone else noticing the love/hate vibe surrounding the only official holiday celebrating love and relationships? Depending on your relationship status or overall mood, Valentine’s Day can represent all that is good, or all that sucks in life. Cue the hearts, flowers, and chocolate. If you believe the hype, lovers … Read more

The Ugly Present

In the days after being released from the hospital, Yvette asked me many times if I was planning to write a blog. At first, I chalked her constant questioning up to the good drugs, she was not very lucid. At some point I realized she was serious. My response was the same each time. No. … Read more

Hate Throw Down

As much as I dislike discussing politics, I dislike what is happening in our country even more. My journey is unique but many share in wondering how everything went haywire with regard to how we relate and interact with each other in daily life. What I see happening in my little part of the world … Read more

Kicking the Cat

The rising hum of anger and discontent is hard to ignore lately. The upcoming election is getting to all of us in one way or another. My political views are not something I make a habit of sharing publicly and today is no exception. However, I will offer some insight about the possibility that fear … Read more

Out is Through

Who likes being uncomfortable? Anyone? Didn’t think so. We all have different thresholds, triggers, and definitions of the word uncomfortable. Companies make millions coming up with ways to help make us more comfortable. Eradicating all physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual woes is an impossible task but shifting how we view discomfort may be able to … Read more

Coming Out Ahead

Twenty-five years ago, Robert Fulghum published a book that became the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller called All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. I read one of the seven million copies that were sold and thought it was wonderful. Most of us know about the lessons taught in Kindergarten but how many know … Read more

Face the Strange

Do you ever wake up and have random song lyrics pop in to your mind? And stay there? There is a name for that. Stuck song syndrome, also know as an earworm. For the past three weeks it has been impossible to interrupt the loop that keeps playing a single lyric from a David Bowie … Read more

Own Your No

Here is a question. How many of you have heard the phrase “setting boundaries” before? I have a sneaking suspicion few have not. I have heard it mentioned on numerous occasions throughout my lifetime, usually while sitting in the therapist’s office or watching Dr. Phil on OWN. What exactly does this mean? Or more importantly, … Read more

Love Your Body

It is natural to feel afraid when a relationship ends. When a marriage ends, everything changes. Entering the dating world is not something most look forward to. The process of learning about a new person and opening up is scary enough on its own. New beginnings bring their own special version of fear to the … Read more